Nicole identifies as biracial, and has said that while growing up as biracial, there were very few TV characters with whom she could identify. Nicole identifies as queer. She was featured in the 2010 OUT 100 list in Out magazine, and was photographed alongside Bruno Tonioli, Armistead Maupin, and Bill Silva for the issue. She married her long-time partner, Claire J. Savage, on October 5, 2013.